It’s been a rough week for Oklahoma City Thunder assistant coach Monty Williams, as his wife Ingrid was tragically lost in a car accident last week along with the driver of the other car, Susannah Donaldson.
Ingrid’s memorial service was yesterday and though her husband’s eulogy could have solely been about their lives together, simply celebrating the two of them, it took a different turn.
Rather, Williams offered a moving tribute to Donaldson’s family, remarking that they too were hurting and needed love and support.
“Everybody is praying for me and my family, and that is right,” Williams said. “But let us not forget that there were two people in this situation, and that family needs prayer as well. And we have no ill will toward that family. In my house, we have a sign that says, ‘As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.’ We cannot serve the Lord if we don’t have a heart of forgiveness. That family didn’t wake up wanting to hurt my wife. Life is hard. Life is very hard. And that was tough. But we hold no ill will towards the Donaldson family. And we, as a group, brothers united in unity, should be praying for that family, because they grieve as well.”
Ingrid Williams died of injuries sustained in the accident after Ms. Donaldson’s car hit hers head on, as Ms. Donaldson’s car crossed the center lane of traffic. Regardless of circumstances, Williams is absolutely right. It’s all too easy for people to get angry at those associated with the one who caused a loved one’s death when, in reality, they’re probably hurting just as badly.
That said, take Williams’ words to heart, ladies and gentlemen. Life is too short to harbor resentment towards those who are only guilty by association, so better to reach across the aisle and grieve together and perhaps make yourselves stronger as a result.
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